How to Slow Down nd Retire from FL

[humburgler]

Originally Posted by Flight

I had to 'force' quit.
Had a fl always let me raw her, for about 18 mths, only her, 1 or 2 times a month.
When she left, I look for others, put on condom, knn, less than 2 mins soft.
Try a few more girls, also the same.
Can only condom with viagra, but really no point.
Now I just slowly slowly bj/hj till cum with same girl, hope maybe one day she let me raw.
If not, shrugs...

yah raw is addictive!!!

[Gratias]

Sex is in our human nature, to be honest. If you want to leave the chionging scene, should look for buddies that you can be open with, and ask them to keep an eye on you. Quitting is never easy but the first step is always the hardest. It gets easier from there.

[aki9]

..exactly what can you do with the upped points ?

[alleycat]

Originally Posted by humburgler

wah 1 year. how you tahan?

I only had sex with wife 4 times total last year. Add that 1 time I went to Jln Molek in Feb 2023, bringing total of 5 times I had sex in 2023. I never visited any ML since 2021.

It was tough initially to stop myself from going back cheonging. I implemented the following mindset/measures.

Financially: I measured what $60 can give me that makes sense. Thats half a month of my 2 kids pocket money. or i could buy a PS5 game (with a bit of top up). Or i could treat my family 4 mcDonald's meals for that month etc. All that vs a 25-30 min euphoria (and post nut clarity)?

Physiology: i started going out for morning slow runs. started with 1km, then 2.5km, then 4km, 5km. After 1 year, i am now running 4km to 7km on weekday mornings (2-3 times) + a 14km long run on Sat or Sun. I do still think of sex. But i realised that the horniness goes off after 3 days. And i can go on without pcc for 6 days, with totally zero urge. But of course, it can only last a short while.

Psychology: So after not pcc for about a week, i felt that i needed to clean my pipe. I experimented with ways to max out my enjoyment and i come back to this forum to read the saucy stories, field reports and see the Dome pics, without touching myself. Then, i'll just indulge in porn and do my thing. About 20 minutes of edging later, i can get extreme mind blown orgasm. Even better than what ML/FL can give. Once the pipe cleared, the monkey brain will come back within 2 hours to crave for action again. so mindset goes back to Financial part to try dissuade myself.

After 1 year though, i might come back cheong, but only because i forgot what it feels like haha.

Hope my experience can help those who wish to quit cheonging to save money.

[Ionaz]

For some, they just get on in age, libido drops, and they just stop going.
For the lucky ones that have high libido even in older years, if you can still get it, why deprive yourself ?
Even sg government give license for it to be legal, means they recognise that there is a need for it.

[humburgler]

Originally Posted by alleycat

I only had sex with wife 4 times total last year. Add that 1 time I went to Jln Molek in Feb 2023, bringing total of 5 times I had sex in 2023. I never visited any ML since 2021.

It was tough initially to stop myself from going back cheonging. I implemented the following mindset/measures.

Financially: I measured what $60 can give me that makes sense. Thats half a month of my 2 kids pocket money. or i could buy a PS5 game (with a bit of top up). Or i could treat my family 4 mcDonald's meals for that month etc. All that vs a 25-30 min euphoria (and post nut clarity)?

Physiology: i started going out for morning slow runs. started with 1km, then 2.5km, then 4km, 5km. After 1 year, i am now running 4km to 7km on weekday mornings (2-3 times) + a 14km long run on Sat or Sun. I do still think of sex. But i realised that the horniness goes off after 3 days. And i can go on without pcc for 6 days, with totally zero urge. But of course, it can only last a short while.

Psychology: So after not pcc for about a week, i felt that i needed to clean my pipe. I experimented with ways to max out my enjoyment and i come back to this forum to read the saucy stories, field reports and see the Dome pics, without touching myself. Then, i'll just indulge in porn and do my thing. About 20 minutes of edging later, i can get extreme mind blown orgasm. Even better than what ML/FL can give. Once the pipe cleared, the monkey brain will come back within 2 hours to crave for action again. so mindset goes back to Financial part to try dissuade myself.

After 1 year though, i might come back cheong, but only because i forgot what it feels like haha.

Hope my experience can help those who wish to quit cheonging to save money.

thanks for detail intel

[Brink]

Originally Posted by alleycat

Same here. I dunno if its post nut clarity or perhaps just over thinking. After shoot liao, i just feel unfulfilled. The last time i cheong was Feb 2023.

Ahh, I like the term - post nut clarity.
I guess for me it is post nut non-satisfaction/unfulfillment.
I have not had sexual intercourse, outside of bbbj/cim, for at least 8 years.
2023, 2 sessions of bj/cim, and thats it.

[humburgler]

Originally Posted by Brink

Ahh, I like the term - post nut clarity.
I guess for me it is post nut non-satisfaction/unfulfillment.
I have not had sexual intercourse, outside of bbbj/cim, for at least 8 years.
2023, 2 sessions of bj/cim, and thats it.

wah bro U zen liao!!!

[Ronn]

Sometimes have to look at it from another angle.
Its either you are carefree and can afford the enjoyment, or you have stress and sex is a good way for you to destress.
You need a valid reason to want to retire, not just because some say it is negative thing.
You can't live your life according to what some say.

[alleycat]

Originally Posted by Ronn

Sometimes have to look at it from another angle.
Its either you are carefree and can afford the enjoyment, or you have stress and sex is a good way for you to destress.
You need a valid reason to want to retire, not just because some say it is negative thing.
You can't live your life according to what some say.

Agree on this.

I went on hiatus in order to save money. Was i happier? Only in monetary sense. But when that itch comes, it can be shitty. But hey, i found running helpful.

Now my financial standing is better, i'll explore GL again. but of cos, not neglecting my running hobby.

[Peacekeeping]

Valentine’s Day self-reflection anyone?

[Ronn]

Originally Posted by alleycat

Agree on this.

I went on hiatus in order to save money. Was i happier? Only in monetary sense. But when that itch comes, it can be shitty. But hey, i found running helpful.

Now my financial standing is better, i'll explore GL again. but of cos, not neglecting my running hobby.

Yes, there's point forcing one to quit something without underlying beneficial reason/s.
It can most probably lead to compensated rebound in time.

[Naka_Timo]

Keep yourself occupied and cut down number of bonk.

[humburgler]

Lets summarize

Why? - Have a good enough reason

Saving money
Waste of time
Unsatisfied FL experience


How?
Find something else to keep occupied
Pcc when there is urge
Go exercise
Visit less SBF or Telegram

[Chua Soi Lek]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

why need to stop?

enjoy while you can.

You will have to stop when
1. Money runs out
2. You can no longer get it up

Carpe diem brother.

Totally agreed … once tasted how to stop wan ?